When Unresolved Trauma Hits a Marriage with Wayne Jacobsen, Part 1
When a crisis hits, what we believe about love, commitment, and ourselves often comes to the surface. Wayne Jacobsen experienced this firsthand when his wife, Sara, left him after 46 years of marriage. Neither of them fully understood how unresolved trauma from Sara’s past was shaping the way she interpreted their relationship. What Sara had believed was kindness toward others, she began to recognize as people pleasing, a pattern that had been robbing her of life. Rather than focusing on his accomplishments or responsibilities, Wayne chose to set everything else aside and seek God’s wisdom about what was happening. He wanted to understand his wife’s pain, examine his own heart, and discover how he could love her well.
In this episode, Wayne shares the journey of learning to understand Sara’s trauma, rebuild trust, and help create space for healing. Known for his work as a bestselling Christian author, founder of Lifestream Ministries, and co-host of The God Journey podcast, Wayne could have focused on the many things he had accomplished. Instead, he chose to prioritize his wife and pursue her heart with patience, humility, and love. His story is a powerful reminder that sometimes the most meaningful thing we can do is lay aside our own agendas to understand someone we love. I was deeply touched by Wayne’s choices and the way he walked through this difficult season with Sara. I hope his story encourages you to consider what love looks like when the person closest to you is hurting.
Connect with Wayne:
Wayne’s podcast: The God Journey https://www.thegodjourney.com/
Wayne’s Facebook author page: https://www.facebook.com/wayneljacobsen/
Links Mentioned:
Wayne’s newest book (withTobie van der Westhuizen):
Just Love: How One Mistranslated Word Distorted the Gospel
Other books by Wayne Jacobsen:
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